“Being single isn’t bad. What is bad is giving up hope on finding that someone special.” – Anonymous
I'm taking myself out of the equation. No, I'm not one less woman you have to compete with in regards to male companionship, sorry it isn't that big of a favor. I'm taking my name out of the unmarried black woman equation that sends most of you into a hopeless pit of despair.
Every month it seems like a new study on marriage and black people surface...or someone regurgitates the same old studies on their blogs. According to the 2006 US Census Bureau, 45% of black women had never been married. According to another study 38% of highly educated black women have never married.
While I am in no way minimizing the broken family I am tired of hearing about the nervous Nelly, miserable, pint of ice cream-eating, sitting on the couch every night, never going to marry black woman.
Seems to be they "calculate" this number by simply looking at the number of black women who never married. Now, I'm no statistician but doesn't that seem to be a trifling way of evaluating this issue?
I asked an economist if they calculate this unmarried black woman thing the way the calculate the unemployment numbers. If they don't, they should. Currently the unemployment rate is roughly 9.6%. You actually think its that low? We know better.
The unemployment rate is not ALL the unemployed working age people in America. Its all those who were actively seeking employment in the previous 4 weeks.
I'm not actively seeking marriage. So black women who cry at night over the 45% rest easy. Furthermore, if you remove lesbians, women who don't want to marry in the near future, women who don't want to marry at all, and women who aren't marriage material and have no business trying to get married I bet that number is a bit lower.
If your personal situation is still dire then I suggest you spend time reflecting and not just blaming. A real adult actually ready for a marriage knows its a shared responsibility of the sexes that is causing these "black wedding bell blues."
5 comments:
@Symphony
"According to the 2006 US Census Bureau, 45% of black women had never been married."
Well that seems to mean that 55% of Black women have been married. When you look at it that way the numbers don't seem so bad.
"38% of highly educated black women have never married."
That means 62% of highly educated Black women have married.
It's funny that these people who make these studies always choose the numbers that make our situations look the worst.
Too many smart women are buying the notion that they have to be married by a certain age.
I think as a society we're still comparing it to days gone by. Women and men wait longer to get married now.
I wonder how much time people spend analyzing these numbers and angles? Probably not as much time as they spend crying and ranting over them.
And included in these numbers of unmarried are probably 20 year olds. Are we really feeling bad because women who are barely out of high school aren't married? I would say its a good thing they aren't married.
Now never been married and single, as we know, are different.
For black women who aren't currently married but once were (divorced) they shouldn't be in the numbers either.
The biggest cry is that Black women can't find men to marry them. Well, someone married them. It didn't work but someone married them.
There are so many ways to look at this beyond 45% of black women have never married or 60% (I made that last one up) are single.
I despise stats, look at the way Monie flipped the stats or how you broke it down. It's just that easy, I think it was Mark Twain who said "there are lies, damn lies and statistics.". The sec some one brings up stats I tune out. But people do need to spend more time focusing on their life and personal happiness instead of worrying. Just not a good look.
I recently did a video I have put up on YouTube concerning an issue that I would love to get feedback on. The video is called Defending the Honor of Black Women it can be found here. The video, along with other videos will posted on my blog as a part of my A Month of Positive Solutions campaign.
agree 9.6 seems too low
I really find those studies to be a way to separate in some ways
if they were using this as a calculation of unemployment, are they factoring in parents?
I don't consider being a parent as unemployed
it is a much better gig than any desk job, and there never are days off from it...nor lunchbreaks
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